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Category Archives: End of Life Planning

Medical Orders for Life Sustaining Treatment (MOLST) v. Do Not Resuscitate (DNR)

Massachusetts has a few forms that people need to be aware of that affect their health care and the treatment that they want. When to use the forms can be confusing.  Below is a summary of each one and when you would want to consider filling it out. A health care proxy is a form [...]

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Leaving A Memo or Letter With Your Will

Your Will is the place where you distribute certain types of property after your death. Anything that has a joint owner (like a house or a bank account) or a named beneficiary (like a retirement plan or insurance policy) will pass to the joint owner or beneficiary upon your death. Your other property is distributed [...]

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End of Life Conversations Will Result In Your Death – 100% of the Time

Everyone is going to die. All of us. Some will die when we are young, some when we are old. Some will die a quick death, and others will linger while those around us try to figure out what to do. (I know, I don’t like it either.) So, when the discussions about the Medicare [...]

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Helping Your Health Care Proxy

April is Health Care Decisions month, the month when you are supposed to sign health care proxies and talk to your family about your “end of life wishes.” I know many people will sign health care proxies, but I wonder how many will take that next step to communicate their wishes to their families, or [...]

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Living Wills for Children, or “I Want My Pepsi Now”

Many many years ago, before I was born, a beloved young cousin in my family was sick, and dying of leukemia.  Towards the end of his life, there was a sign above his bed that said "nothing by mouth," meaning he should not have anything to eat or drink as he was getting his nutrition [...]

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What to Do When You Can’t Decide

I sometimes have clients who have trouble making decisions – they can't decide who should be guardian of their children, they can't decide who to appoint as agent under a power of attorney, and they can't decide exactly how to distribute their property when they pass away.  And so they do nothing.  Maybe they call [...]

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Starting the Conversation About End of Life Care

Families are often hesitant to talk about end of life wishes. Maybe they are uncomfortable bringing it up, maybe they are afraid of the reaction of others, or maybe they think everyone would know what to do so there's no need to discuss it.  But if it feels uncomfortable now – when there is no [...]

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In the Nursing Home, by Jane Kenyon

In the Nursing Home She is like a horse grazinga hill pasture that someone makessmaller by coming every nightto pull the fences in and in. She has stopped running wide loops,stopped even the tight circles.She drops her head to feed; grassis dust, and the creekbed’s dry. Master, come with your lighthalter. Come and bring her [...]

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Planning Your Funeral On-Line

You can do everything else on-line these days – shop, communicate with friends and strangers, read the news, pay your bills, find a mate – and now you can plan your funeral on-line with MyWonderfulLife.  As the site explains: Whether you want a completely customized event, or a traditional funeral, we make it easy to [...]

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Should You Put Burial Instructions in Your Will?

I often have clients ask me if they should include their burial wishes in their Wills. I always tell them "no."  Your Will is the document that outlines how you want your property divided after your death, and hopefully it will not be the first thing people are reaching for when you pass away. Your [...]

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